Each to her own...except not exactly

Last night I visited my grandparents, and mostly we talked about my younger sister in the context of social standards and how she will stop at nothing to fit in. My grandmother was telling me that when I was younger, I was not as concerned- obsessed even- with fitting in by acting the right way, wearing the right clothing, watching the right TV and singing the right songs than my sister. My explanation to her was as follows. My parents and I are first generation immigrants, while my sister was born here in the States. I am mostly an introvert while she is mostly an extrovert. Though we look similar we are have very different personalities and characters, which explains why she is not exactly as I was when I was her age. The fact that she is in grade school also bears relevance. At her age peers are vicious! If she does not fit in, she will most definetly be looked down upon, and potentially ostrasized. And even though she has a pretty strong character for her age, her character is nothing without her support groups. I wish, though, that she would realize that rather have no friends at all than have cheap lame friends. When I washer age I did not have any close friends in my school and I was mostly fine with that because I realized that I am better off without these kids. So on the one hand I understand exactly what is going on with my sister, but at the it bothers me. That I am helpless to convince her of her flawed ways bothers me even more, seeing as she is so stubborn that even saying "No, you are wrong" leaves no impression on her. How different we are is ammusing. When I was her age, I would feel stupid at the mere suggestion that what I am doing might be wrong, whereas she is so convinced that her ways are wrong that she will not even listen to the critique of those who are older and wiser than her. However, her stubborn-ness is not all shortcomming. When she herself becomes older and wiser, she will be able to get people to do what is right because she will stop at nothing to have it her way. It's just a matter of how she uses this ability.